Top o’ the Mornin’ to Ya!
TLDR:
Transform your “shoulds” into decisions and commitments before they become the poison that paralyzes your growth.
What?
I’ve been “should-ing” all over myself lately. For weeks, I kept saying “I should take my wife on a date night” – we were a couple weeks behind on our regular dates. “I should work out,” “I should eat right,” “I should spend more time with the kids.” Sound familiar? Tony Robbins has this perfect phrase: “Stop should-ing all over yourself!” And he’s right – I was drowning in shoulds. Finally, this week, I wiped all that “should” off myself and actually scheduled the date night. It’s on the calendar. It’s happening. The shift from “I should” to “I am” changed everything.
Why?
I’m sharing this because “should” is the sweet poison of paralysis. It’s sweet because it makes us feel like we’re heading somewhere, like we’re making progress just by thinking about what we should do. We fantasize about our better self, the one who works out regularly, dates their spouse consistently, and spends quality time with the kids. But here’s the truth – all that “should-ing” creates a false belief that we’ve actually done something when we haven’t moved an inch. It’s killing us slowly, keeping us stuck in lukewarm mediocrity while we dream about being better.
Lesson:
The Bible warns us about being lukewarm – neither hot nor cold – and that’s exactly where “should” keeps us trapped. Force “should” into a short lifespan; if you don’t convert it into action quickly, it turns toxic and gets all over your life. The antidote to this poison is decision. Every “should” needs to become a commitment with a specific plan and timeline. This connects directly back to the Kingdom Family Leader path – when we bless ourselves by taking decisive action instead of living in fantasy, we expand our territory and serve His Kingdom more effectively. The cycle always brings us back to personal responsibility. Shoulds are temporary visitors that must either be converted into commitments or released entirely. Don’t let them set up permanent residence in your mind. Don’t let them seed guilt and shame that isn’t yours.
Apply:
Right now, write down your top three “shoulds” that have been haunting you. Pick the most important one and convert it into a specific commitment with a date and time. Put it on your calendar immediately – not tomorrow, not later today, but right now. Then text someone to create accountability. Transform that poisonous “should” into a powerful “I am” with a specific when and how.
You be blessed!
